AskPhilippa
the advice column for intelligent single adults
In October 15, 2002,
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October 15, 2002
Controlling Men Turn Women Off
I started seeing someone; just hanging out, bowling, having dinner, etc. It is very casual and I'd like it to be more but she doesn't respond. Then she asked me would I mind if my girlfriend went to a male strip club. I told her I didn't really agree...
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October 08, 2002
How Can I Tell When A Woman is Interested?
I'm ready to meet the right woman, get married, and start a family. But I have a problem reading body language and maintaining eye contact with women. How can I tell if a woman just wants to date and have fun or is looking for love and marriage? How ca...
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October 08, 2002
Men in Uniform Turn Me On
I was married and divorced at a young age and raised my child on my own. Now I'm ready to have someone strong to lean on. I don't want to sound loony, but men in authority and protection fields like policemen and the mi...
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October 01, 2002
What Constitutes Cheating?
Do you think a guy who looks at porn on the Internet is cheating? My girlfriend thinks I'm cheating by doing this. But I'm faithful to her. I'm not even having cyber-sex with anyone. It's all just fantasy. What's wrong with that?...
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October 01, 2002
Can't Get Over Him
I left my abusive, alcoholic husband nearly three years ago. I then met Dan and we fell in love with each other. Dan suffers with depression, so a year ago when he tried to end things, I wouldn't budge. But he moved and refused...
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September 24, 2002
She Has No Time For Us Anymore
After dating for eight months, my girlfriend doesn't seem to make any time for us. We never spend time together and she says she's just too busy right now. I told her I love her and that I don't want to break up but I am not hap...
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September 03, 2002
Did I Blow it with the Woman I Just Asked Out?
I met a wonderful woman at a bus stop recently. We both wait at the same stop most mornings. We seem to have great rapport and laugh at the same things. She could stand anywhere but she always stands next to me so we ca...
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August 06, 2002
How Do I Make Her Mine?
I have met a wonderful woman who has just come out of a divorce. Other than a few casual dates, I was the first one she started dated. We have been out a few times. We have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company. I don't...
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July 30, 2002
Our Religious Differences Get in the Way
—Patrick, Boise, ID...
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July 23, 2002
Why Has She Turned Cold?
This isn't exactly a dating question but I have an office mate that I used to have a great relationship with. We worked together and got on so well. In fact I had a hard time not falling for her. Then she went on vacation. While...
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July 16, 2002
I Lost Our Baby, I Lost Him, and I'm Losing My Mind
A year or so ago, I met John. He wasn't the kindest guy around but I got pregnant. I already have a daughter by another man. John and I planned to call the baby Leslie. Then I had a car accident and tried to contact John. I foun...
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July 09, 2002
He Drinks, I Dont - Can We Date?
I'm a 32-year old non-drinker and I am dating a wonderful man who is a "social drinker". I am usually non-judgmental but for some reason I got upset when someone told me that he has been known to occasionally over indu...
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July 02, 2002
Is he Tired of Dating Twinkies?
After nine months of dating I'm learning things about my boyfriend's past that are making me uncomfortable. He has dated strippers, hookers, models and girls half his age. And while he says he is ready for a mature relationship,...
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June 25, 2002
How Can I Tell Which Guy I Should Date?
It's been a while since I've dated anyone and I've just started meeting some men from the Internet. I'm enjoying the attention and conversation but I don't know where it goes from here. How do you know which one to meet again an...
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June 11, 2002
How Can We Be Friends when I'm Crazy about Her?
—Ron, Boston, MA...
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June 04, 2002
Where are all the Good Men?
I've been widowed almost five years. Every time I get into a relationship with a man he just doesn't stack up to my husband. He wasn't perfect but he was thoughtful and polite. It seems there are pretty "poor pickings&qu...
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May 28, 2002
Shy Guy Wants to Know How to Get the Girls
I'm not ugly. I'm not a geek. I'm just clumsy and shy around females. I've always been shy around women. I want to know how to have the kind of style that attracts women, and how to say the right things. I want that strut, st...
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May 21, 2002
They Fall too Fast or Become Just Friends
I have no trouble meeting men. They either get too serious right away and then go elsewhere when I tried to slow things down or they have ended up as long-lasting non-romantic friendships. I have twelve of these male friendsh...
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May 14, 2002
Why Did a Divorced Single Mom Get Dumped Again
I had just helped him find a new house. And he said he could see all of us living there. I told him not to say that unless he meant it. Three weeks later, after four months together, it was over. He said there was something miss...
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May 07, 2002
You Can Get Burnt Trying to Reignite an Old Flame
I recently heard from a guy I grew up with. We were sweethearts in high school and I never forgot him. We've both been married---he still is and I'm divorced now and not dating anyone special. His call really stirred things u...
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